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I don’t know what to say. but I figure if i just start writing something true will come out. My head is full, my heart is tattered but the scar tissue is strong. Fort McMurray, a small city in Northeast Alberta, is on fire. 88,0000 people have been evacuated. their homes are ash and cinder. It’s awesome in the biblical sense of the word. I think of the time that my ‘fridge caught fire and smoked me out of my house for six months. I didn’t lose everything, I stayed in town, my place was rebuilt, my neighbours were okay, and helped me. It was easy. But Fort Mac, now, it’s all ash and cinder. Consumed.

I think of my friend who moved there a decade ago, more, to be an electrician. I think of my brother, the quality control guy for a firetruck sales company. He sometimes delivers trucks up there. His livelihood depends, though indirectly, on the gas and oil industry up there. Everyone’s does, really, in Alberta. Nearly everyone.

an ex lover of mine moved there last summer with her husband (I know. I have a bit of a pattern, looks like. never mind, that’s another story). She’s really smart and generous, and has a gift for communicating and facilitating understanding. A bright light, she is. Our breakup is in the lesbian record books as the most loving and gentle of all break ups. We went out for dinner and gave each other appreciations for all we gained from each other. She gave me love and acceptance at a really lonely time  — she admired me when my confidence was flagging and and encouraged my writing. We encouraged each other. We went to the gym together, we did the BCMC trail together for the first time for each of us (the grind was closed at the time), we went to feminist events and helped to organize some, too. We went together to Michfest in 2009! We hosted lesbian feminist dinner parties — until we broke up, and even after we still kept up for a bit. We did pack a lot in in our brief time together.

I’m not easy to be with, I think. I’m kind of self-involved and I’m hella messy, holy shit. I have a million things on the go and new shiny things keep crossing my path. I’m emotionally expressive, which is sometimes a good thing — you know what you’re gonna get from me from 50 paces — but I can be mercurial, volatile. More so then, when we were lovers seven years ago now. I was newly sober (again), and rough around the edges. She was patient with me. I was not so much. She was in the midst of big changes — career-wise mostly, and experiencing some depression and uncertainty because of that.  She’s twenty years younger than I am. almost. We helped each other grow up, in a way.

Why am I writing all this?

She’s dying. She’s only 33 and she’s riddled with cancer and she’s in her hometown with her mom and her siblings and her husband and she’s dying. I can’t remember where i put my keys, or who i promised to see today, or how to do simple things sometimes. I can’t walk in my fucking house without tripping over something but i keep bidding on shit I don’t need on ebay…We are not in each other’s lives anymore, but we were important to each other once, and the things we fell in love with are still there —

And my last lover, she liked her too–this would be something we could talk about, think about, feel about together. this is one of those times when it would be good to belong somewhere. with someone. Anguish is a good word for this.

never mind. i send Joanna some picture of beauty every day, I play my accordion every day, i send her cards in the mail, I pray to my ancestors (because i don’t believe in god but i do believe in grandma) every day, and I try to remember where i put my damn keys, and to take my asthma medicine and to read those articles for school next week, and to smile at people I meet and I try to be patient and to expect the best of people. That’s what Joanna does, she expects the best of people. Especially people who have not had those expectations, the people who are perpetual “clients”. Joanna, who is dying, always raised the bar, and gave people what they needed to meet her expectations and to get beside her. Now you would see, in her hospital room, on her facebook page, wherever she has been, traces of the love and respect and faith she gave so generously returning to her as she walks toward that final doorway here. Gathered in the arms of her family, her friends. She is leaving. She is leaving her gifts for us.






Video: Swedish reporter interviews college students on identity

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Watch right to the end, this is good. But I must say i’m a bit chafed about the height thing. I am certain that i’m 6’2″ tall.

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“Subversive Barbie” Altered Book

Incendiary Barbie, courtesy of “a rain and a gale”.

a rain and a gale

So I was strolling through Cost Plus World Market today and saw a whole rack of those Little Golden Books. One of the books was The World of Barbie. I immediately thought of my best friend! So I bought it and altered it for her. Here is a random sampling of some of my work. Enjoy.


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Opening night Antigone November 22 1983 Edith and Erin


this is a picture of my mom and me. We were at some hotel bar or other in Lethbridge after opening night of Antigone, November 22, 1983. I was 21, Mom was 49. She often looked at me like this. And I often looked at her like that, too — when i was young. A mixture of love and impatience. Oh, I so took her love and protection for granted! Especially when I was young.

I remember the date because it was my birthday, my twenty-first, and i had the lead role in the play. It was the mainstage production that fall semester at the University of Lethbridge. I was still heterosexual then, engaged, even! Dad was there too, maybe Lenzes as well. They’d moved to Lethbridge by then.

Mom’s name was Edith. It’s a Germanic name, and it means “spoils of war”. She was a warrior, was Mom. She wouldn’t have claimed that, I don’t think. But she had to be anyway. She was asthmatic, and I think she had a much harder time with it than I did. Better drugs around by the time I arrived. She would have to inject herself with adrenaline when she was having an asthma attack. I think that might have caused her death eventually. That stuff’s really hard on the ol’ ticker. Once, when she was a teenager, she gave herself an injection to get herself out of a crisis and passed out. She never took it again. kept the syringe, though. I don’t know where it went, now. It was a big heavy glass and steel contraption in a velvet lined box. fancy.

When she was a girl, she wanted to grow up to be either an airline stewardess or a teacher (I think), and she wanted to have five children. She couldn’t  be a stewardess because they also had to be nurses, and definitely could not have asthma. She did become a teacher, but never got a diploma or degree, she kind of lucked into it when we lived in Red Deer and my brother and I were about 10 and 11 or so. She’d been caring for the neighbourhood kids while their moms were at work, and then she started working at a ‘Head Start’ program for pre-kindergarten aged kids. Dad was on the board of the Fairview Kindergarten Society at the time (I have no idea why, or how that came about), and Mom would often drive the founder and ruler of the kindergarten, Mrs. Ruff, to Edmonton or Calgary for meetings. Mrs. Ruff was affectionately called “The Little General” at her church. She wasn’t five feet tall, but she could fill a room, that’s for sure. She was our kindergarten teacher, and she  knew how to hold the attention of a room full of five-year-olds. Anyway, Mrs. Ruff took a shine to Mom and offered her a job as a Teacher’s Aide one year. That was it.

Mom taught for about 25 years. She had a gift with children. Like her mother, Peg Morgan, she spoke to children as she spoke to adults, and she had expectations of them. Not unrealistic expectations, but high nonetheless. It must have been from her that I first learned that people will meet the expectations you have of them, so you might just as well aim high. She wouldn’t tolerate disrespectful behaviour or bullying, but she had all the patience in the world for the children who needed some extra kindness, attention, responsibilities…

She was creative and sharp and funny, my mom. Her gifts were under-utilized, she was stunted in many ways by the ol’ patriarchy. She never thought she was very smart, although she was. She was a relentless and unrepentant punster, she was a gourmet cook, sewed the best Barbie clothes on the block, made beautiful doll furniture and stuff out of egg cartons, berry baskets and bits of twine, created cards, painted watercolours, and best of all, stood up with and for her family and friends. it’s been a year and a half since she died and I still can’t get used to speaking of her in the past tense.

But that is where she lives now, in the past. Not in Red Deer or Regina or Swift Current — she is all those places, but long ago now. I can hear her voice, and her warm full laughter. I can see her brown eyes looking at me with love, sorrow, disappointment, pride — Oh how I miss her.

I guess that’s how it’s supposed to be. You just miss your mom forever.

I don’t think anyone will miss me the way I miss her. That’s how it is.




Love and Accordions — variations on a theme

Oh, it’s been AGES since I’ve posted anything. Not because nothing is happening, or I’m not thinking and doing and feeling all kinds of things. Indeed, it’s been an ongoing saga – teaching, learning, loving, raging, hoping, despairing, writing, playing, working – life life goes on as it does. I’m really busy with all kinds of things, and even though I have many friends, and work and interests, still – I am lonely. Can’t shake it. There’s nowhere that is home now. No one who is my home. But that’s okay. It’s an ongoing fear of mine, to be alone. And when I’m afraid of something, it’s a sign that I ought to go toward it, do what’s required to understand the source of the fear. Hang out in the discomfort and learn something.

I’ve been more focused on another kind of keyboard entirely lately. My accordion. Well, accordions. And a concertina. People keep giving me accordions. In 2001, my brother Carl gave me a beat up old Hohner, missing the front grill, some keys sticking, others that were silent. But there were no holes in the bellows and it had a beautiful rich tone, and it was in tune, too. I started noodling around on it and remembered one song from when I was a little kid taking lessons in Red Deer. One song. My fingering was all awkward and messy, and I couldn’t find the right chords for the longest time, but by and by, I put it together, and then I could play that one song. Then I saw a young woman on the street, busking with her accordion. As I remember now, her squeezebox was nearly as big as she was, and she wore long stripy socks that almost looked like a keyboard. Her hair all messy in a couple of ponytails sticking at odd angles from her head. The music she played made me want to dance and cry at the same time. I waited until she was done her song, put five bucks into her open case and asked her if she would teach me how to play. She said okay, and then for about a month or so, she rode her bike to my house, carrying her accordion on her back, and taught me how to play Greensleeves. Then she moved away to Seattle to get famous and I never heard of her again. She was lovely, though, and patient with my fumbling stiff fingers and off-kilter rhythm.

I have a good ear, a really good ear. But when it comes to keeping time, I am the rhythmic equivalent of tone-deaf. I’m from the prairies, from farm people, people who love to dance, and I can’t even two-step. I had to move away from there.

Then when I was in university again, my professor told me about the moveable music school. That term they were offering accordion lessons! Six weeks. There were twelve students and we met in the common room of one of the students’ housing coop. and we learned a few more songs, beautiful sad waltzes and a jig and some scales too. I still know some of those. One of the women in that group had just bought herself a brand new accordion, and she gave me her old one. Another Hohner, in much better shape than mine, though with quirks of her own, too. She just gave it to me. But I barely knew her and I know that accordions are pretty dear so I offered her some money. She understood my need to formalize the exchange, and agreed to the sum I offered her – “were I to sell it to you,” she said, “that was what I thought would be a fair price”. So now, a better accordion, more songs, and the music started to live with me.

Some of us continued to learn from that teacher once the moveable music school term was over, but then summer came, she moved away, and I got too busy with school to chase down another teacher.

My accordion sat there for a while, then my apartment burned up (my ‘fridge caught fire. Imagine that!), and everything was all in a turmoil for a while. I moved myself and my accordion to my lover’s place for six months while mine was rebuilt. And didn’t play her much. At the time I was hosting a storytelling circle once a month, and that was a lot of fun – I brought my accordion – The Accordion of Love – with me to those, and I often brought her with me, too, when I went on marches or demonstrations – take Back the Night, or housing for all, or protest the pipelines or whathaveyou. The Accordion of Love was there. But I didn’t practice in between those things, and I never got any better. Well, maybe I did a little bit but not much.

My lover and I broke up, I moved my accordion back to my rebuilt apartment, she sat in a corner while I nursed my wounds and found my single footing again. By and by I got some traction in life again, and started to pick up the Accordion of Love a bit more. I remembered the songs from the moveable music school, and I was teaching some, so I’d bring the accordion to school to play for my students. They always applauded, the dear things, and laughed with either a bit of hysteria or delight. Some people loved it, some hated it. Ah well. The accordion, you can’t be neutral about it.

Then I fell in love again, oh my. This was it, this woman was home, I was sure of it. We moved from a sweet friendship to lovers. We are both feminists, both activists, both strong smart, powerful women – together we would be unstoppable.

Well. Turns out I was wrong. I had a little niggling fear that by and by she would not love me, eventually. That she would tire of me by and by. She said then, “no, baby, I know you – I have always loved you, that won’t change”.  Well. So much for that. Our love affair and our break up was/is a bit complicated and the patriarchy interfered. Even as it brought us together, it drove us apart. We were doomed from the start. I didn’t want to know that then. I don’t want to know it now. But what I want doesn’t matter, not in this regard.

In the summer of 2014, a few months after my lover broke up with me, and a couple of weeks after I defended my PhD thesis, I drove home to Alberta to visit Mom and to roam around my past on the way there and the way back too. I will always be grateful I made that trip. Mom wasn’t at my defense, (I think she wanted to come, but that’s another story, another time), and I wanted to get out of town for a while. I was very happy about my defense, it went really well. But I was still heart-broken about the end of my love affair. I did not want to give up on us. Anyway, I was happy and sad, and worried about the future, and yearning for home. So I drove across the mountains to the prairies and my mom. I’m so grateful I had that time with her then. I wish I had stayed longer. But there you go. I didn’t, and there’s nothing for it now.

On my way back, I went south to Lethbridge, where I went to university for my BA. I looked up an old roommate, and another friend who’s a poet and storyteller and postal worker. He’s also, turns out, a bit of a hoarder (more than I am, for sure!). I went to his house with him, and he has all kinds of stuff in there – a slide trombone hanging from the ceiling, and guitars, mandolins and big string basses on his walls and propped against boxes stacked against the wall. He’s got shirts half-embroidered on dress forms (he makes his own costumes for his stories, embroiders stuff on cowboy shirts he finds in thrift stores), and stacks of sheet music, books, vinyl records, stuffed animals, oh, I don’t know what all. He had two accordions. He wanted me to take both of them, but I only took one. A little 12-bass kid’s accordion. Another Hohner, but made in Italy. It has such a great sound, bigger than its size, and I could noodle around on it when I stopped for a rest from driving. This is, rather than the big, serious Accordion of Love – The Accordion of Light Flirtation.

That fall, I brought the accordion of light flirtation to the class I was teaching, the day before they were to go to their short practicum placements. It was our last day together for three weeks. We had a great time. Serious learning, to be sure, but we can still enjoy ourselves, n’est pa? The next day I was working at the rape crisis centre, and it was slow morning.

My cell phone rang, and it was a call from my brother. My brother NEVER calls me. It wasn’t Shawn, though, it was my sister-in-law Wendy. “Hi Shawn, what’s up?” I answered, knowing it must be a very big deal for him to call. “it’s not Shawn, Erin. It’s Wendy.” “What’s goin’ on?” I asked. Dread was creeping up my neck. “Your mom is dead” she’s not one for euphemisms, is Wendy. The dread rushed to my throat and poured out my mouth in a great wail. “Oh no, oh no oh no…” I couldn’t stop, “Mommommom” Even now, thinking of it, a low keening comes from deep within.

Even though there is no one who was my home, there are many. My ex-lover called me and told me to go to her house. She gave me soup and helped me book a flight and stayed with me until I went to the plane. I called other friends and they all stepped up – one drove me to the airport, another took care of hosting a meeting that I was supposed to host that week, others picked up some other of my commitments.

My dearest friend, another ex-lover, who lives in Victoria now, made arrangements to come home to be with me and my brother. She didn’t skip a beat. When I called her to tell her she said, “Do you want me to come?” I hadn’t even considered that, but when she offered it was like a parachute opening. Women called me all that week, the radical feminists sent flowers, my ex-lover and my high school friend who lives in Montreal called me almost every day. Surrounded. I was (am) surrounded by a web of relationships. I felt wide-open and cold all the time, like a prairie winter wind was tearing through me. But I was held together, no matter what. These women, from everywhere and every time hold me as I hold them—we are not always intimate but we are always linked.

I went home. I wrote reams. I wept, and went through Mom’s stuff, I held onto my brother, he held onto me. We are still holding on. I miss her so much. She used to holler at me to practice, when I was taking accordion lessons before, when I was a kid. I was supposed to practice a half hour a day, and for most of that half hour, I would just stare at the sheet music. I don’t know why I was so resistant. I did not know that I would return to it after so many years. But that’s often how I am – I never really let go.

It’s been now a year and a half since Mom died. We’ve lived through all the “firsts” – birthdays, graduation, Christmas, New Year, anniversaries, summer vacations… This year a couple of friends bought me an accordion lesson with a young man who’s been playing since he was a child, and he’s a virtuoso musician. My former professor gave me her accordion, a “ladies” size Guerrini. She’s beautiful and more ergonomic than my Accordion of Love. Now I play every day. Sometimes only for ten or 15 minutes, sometimes only a few songs, or maybe just finger exercises and no songs at all. But every day. And I’m getting better. And I do so wish I could play for Mom.

And for Grandma. My Grandma was married to a man who played accordion before she married my Grandpa. James MacDonald was “a jolly fellow” according to Grandma, but he died of an infection he got in the hospital after a routine operation, leaving Grandma widowed at 20 with two small boys and an accordion. “I should never have sold that accordion” she told me once. And she had great hopes for me when I took it up.

The title of this piece is “Accordions and Love” because I wanted to explore the metaphor. I’m not so good at intimate partnerships, apparently.  I’ve not been with anyone longer than 6 years. Mostly they end after 2-4 years, and it’s never me pulling the plug. I’m like that in the rest of my life, too. I don’t think, “I want to do this” and then go about finding out how to do it. Instead someone will say, “try this” or “go apply for that job”, or “you, I want you,” and I will go, “okay. Guess I’ll do that then.” That way, if I don’t initiate, it’s not really my responsibility.

A friend of mine said recently, “Erin, that’s what we all do.” Which may be true. Sounds about right, in fact. And once in it, once I accept the opportunity or the invitation or the challenge, then I have to take initiative. In love, politics, work, friendship, and in music, I have to practice. People have given me accordions, they have helped me find teachers, but I’m the one who has to commit. And I do. Once I say “yes”, I will stick to it (sometimes to my own detriment, I gotta say).

Every day I play my accordion. I make the same mistakes over and over again. I begin again and again. The accordion is patient. I learn to listen. When I strike the right notes, I continue. When I press the wrong key, I stop and go back. Try again. By and by I do get it right. Learning a language – the language of love, the language of music – is a process. And it’s a process that requires you to both lead and to follow. To commit and to take risks. If you’re to grow, you’re going to fail from time to time, and there will be plateaus to endure and times when you think it will never work out or become clear. Stick with it. Go back to the beginning, ask for guidance, don’t give up. Take a break, do some research, listen to other musicians, try again. Remember why this is important (remember why you love her) and imagine a future together that is beauty and freedom (imagine what you deserve—think big) and act now to put the two together.

I’m sticking with the accordion. Practicing every day is helping with my other commitments, too.  Listening to the music, learning how to read and then speak it helps me to listen to others, as well. I’m a committed feminist. Radical.  I yearn to be part of something bigger than myself, and until recently, I thought that could be a gang, or even a partnership, a lover a family – we could be each other’s support, encouragement and solace. From a home base together we could go change the world. But maybe ‘within’ or ‘part of’ is not where I belong – within. Maybe where I belong is the margin, the outside. Maybe from here, not part of a gang, not part of a family, not half of an intimate partnership – I can see more. I can hear different stuff. I can be here on the edge of numbers of groups and hold together threads between us. Sometimes I’ll be on the margin, sometimes I’ll be a hub. Sometimes I’ll play the score, sometimes I’ll improvise.

Right now, I think of myself as lonely. I feel lonely. And it’s kind of frightening. But it’s also an opportunity. To nurture other connections, to serve a bigger purpose, to lead (often from behind) – to make my own spot from which to share my voice. Maybe what I think is loneliness is only what this kind of fear feels like right now. And I should dive into it.  I am lonely. But I am not alone. It’s okay to be afraid and sad. I will feel it and walk toward it, leading and listening with all my heart and mind.


Trigger warning — anthropomorphizing a car —

The other day, I went downstairs to my underground parking lot and I found that my car had been, um, re-positioned. Her name is Dolores Isabella Loretta Stuart-Graham, the Irish Disco Party Wagon. She’s a 1999 Honda Civic sedan, with a disco ball hanging from the rearview mirror and a creepy little sculpture of a screaming mouth sitting on the dashboard. One of my students last summer made this sculpture for a final project and gave me one of the parts of it. I credit it with always finding me parking spots. Always.

Anyway, She was perched at an angle, backed partially out of my parking spot.  I thought i’d forgotten to engage the parking brake and she’d rolled backward, though the angle of the underground surface was such that it would be against gravity for her to roll backward.  but that’s what I thought. I continued to think that as I noticed that the front doors were slightly ajar, and the contents of the glove box were strewn about the floor of the car. I put my gym bag in the back of the car and noticed another thing, a large plastic cover plate. then i got in behind the wheel–the seat had been pushed quite far back, so I moved it up again, and saw that the cover came from my steering column. Still I clung tenaciously to the belief that someone had come along, seen my car stranded in the middle of the parking garage like that, and tried to start it to get it back to it’s home spot. ridiculous, I know. But finally, I was forced to admit that in fact, someone had tried to steal my dear Dolores.  The steering wheel was loose, and the ignition was dislodged kind of at an angle, and she wouldn’t start. Note that during this time, I touched everything, every place that the thief might have touched.  Also, one of my neighbours came and helped me push her back into the parking spot. So he touched parts of her, too.

I sent a text to the friend that I was to meet that morning, and went back to my place to call BCAA to tow her to my mechanic. Then I thought, “oh, I’d better call the insurance company”– and when I did that, I learned that I should call the police first so I would have a file number. So I called the non-emergency line and the person I talked to there told me not to move the car until the police could come look at it. I cancelled BCAA. My file number with the police indicated that I was one of nearly 6000 people reporting auto theft or vandalism so far this year. That’s a lot. And that’s a lot of people reporting.

The whole time i was doing this stuff, i thought about how people respond to male violence against women. Now, I’ve worked with women escaping and resisting male violence since 1989. and throughout that time I’ve called the police scores of times. Not hundreds, because mostly we don’t report men’s violence against us to the police. Certainly not in the numbers that we will report car theft or other property crimes. there are good reasons for this

Among those reasons, though by no means the most compelling, is the amount of time it often takes police to respond to our calls to come take a statement. I’ve waited for between four and twenty-four hours for police to come to the transition house or drop-in centre to talk to a woman. I met with an officer a little less than an hour and a half after I called them. Now, the information they’ll need to take about an assault will be more detailed and take longer to record than the information about a vandalism, but still.  Of course, I didn’t complain to the young woman who came.

When she came, she asked me where I had found the car, and told me that they might need to take it to the police station to dust it for prints. When I told her that I had moved it, and checked all the doors and touched the wheel and the glove box and, well, everything, she said, “oh well, that’s okay. It’s understandable, it’s your car, you were trying to figure out what happened”.

compare this to, “You shouldn’t have showered, what do you mean you burned your clothing? you’ve destroyed the evidence…”

She asked me how the thief had gained entrance to my car, “ah, I always leave it unlocked down here” i said. She gave me a sympathetic look and asked if maybe our strata would put in some cameras. At no time did she say or even faintly imply that I had invited this violation. Never. Even when I said, “I should have, I guess, that was bad,” she replied something to the effect that you would expect in a secure lot that your vehicle would be safe.

Also, here’s another thing. Dolores is OLD (for a car). And she has a manual transmission. No one uses a manual transition anymore. So I’ve assumed that because of her age and, well, lack of sex appeal, she would be safe from theft attempts. Where have you heard that before? And of course we know that men will attack women whom they judge are most vulnerable. Including older women, for example, disabled women, women wearing high heels (that’s why they are marketed so strenuously to women — who can run in those?), women who are wearing flashy revealing clothing but also women who do not at first glance appear vulnerable, who might be wearing floral print dresses with high necklines, or women jogging through public parks in the middle of the day. Mostly, though of course, men (like, oh Jian Ghomeshi) will attack women to whom they already have access–they have dated them, or married them, or are related to them or to their friends in some way.  I also told the police officer that a friend of mine has another set of keys, and that I lend the car to her from time to time. At no time did the cop say, “oh, well then — you have to just expect that people will assume you’ll let them drive her whenever”. That would be ridiculous, right?

As several of the speakers said at a recent demonstration against the over-policing (and under-protection) of women in Vancouver (especially Indigenous women, especially poor women), “sometimes the police provide an excellent, caring, thorough response. so we KNOW they can do it right”. Everyone was good to me when i reported the violation of my car. And even though I am white, highly educated and a “big P” professional now, I do not trust that I will receive such good treatment were I to report a violation of my body.

yesterday the judge acquitted Jian Ghomeshi of all charges against him, and women rose in fury in response to this travesty.

I don’t anticipate that the criminal justice system (or any of the systems of power and domination, in fact) will change to adopt a vision of women’s liberation anytime soon. But I do know that we are talking about male violence against women more than we have before, and we are on the cusp of an absolutely necessary change.  It is not enough that the cops respond to women reporting male violence with the same compassion and respect that they respond to auto theft, of course — but it is an essential step. You’d think that it would not be necessary to say stuff like that, wouldn’t you? but it still is. it still fucking is, and I suspect that unless the cops and the media and the judges take this tiny essential step to believe women, and soon, women will take action (not that we’ve ever stopped).


Bullshit alert: No one is born with a gender identity

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Gender harms children.

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